The Daly Gem
Meg Daly is a Life and Career Coach who works with individuals on achieving results and becoming the best version of themselves. You can learn more about her services at www.coachmegdaly.com.
How many times a day are you stuck in your head? Have you found yourself laying in bed staring at the ceiling trying to be "right," trying to figure out why someone did something or said something. Pretty soon it's 3am, your heart is racing, and you head hurts.
My question is, how is this working for you? It really held me back for years.
In order to get out of the "rumination wheel rut" we first must become AWARE of how this is holding us back, make a DECISION to do something different, and most importantly take ACTION.
If trying to always figure things out (aka "overthinking") is keeping you stuck, and you are ready to do something different, all you now need to do is take action through a tool that works for you. Perhaps it's meditation, talk therapy, or creating morning and evening rituals to move you into more of grounded mindset.
Often there is fear with change. Even if our current circumstances are less than desirable, it's scary to step out of that familiar place. When years of a certain behavior, such as rumination, are what we know, it's difficult to step away from that way of thinking/living/being because what's on the other side is unknown.
When we do step outside of that space, however, gifts begin showing up.
My challenge to you today is whatever you are overthinking, whatever you can't let go of, whatever grudge you're holding on to, wherever forgiveness is lacking, choose one tool to act upon and watch how things begin to change!
All is well,
Everything we create was once imagined. Think about that for a second. If it's true that everything we create was once imagined, we have an incredible amount of power within us. Probably more than we realize. You might even call it your super power!
How do you use your imagination? Do you wake in the morning dreading the work meeting? Predicting the worst case scenario? Feeling disheartened about the relationship you're in? Expecting the worst so you won't be disappointed?
I agree with the idea of "expectations are resentments waiting to happen," but only when those expectations are put upon another person and out of our control. On the flip side, I truly believe that when we allow ourselves to dream big, these expectations are not resentments waiting to be happen but instead beautiful gifts and blessings waiting to be opened and witnessed.
When we expect things to work in our favor, that is where our attention goes. When we expect beautiful things to happen, we begin to look for them like a treasure hut. When you state your intention for the day, your intuition and awareness naturally looks for those things, naturally brings them into your awareness
Today the challenge for myself and all of you is to ask ourselves, "how GOOD could today get?" You don't have to believe you have this power within you, but why not look at it as an experiment? You have nothing to lose and only really great things to win.
I wonder how good could today could get?
p.s. I'd love to hear about any synchronicities or cool things that happen today that you feel were set in motion from your super power of imagination!
All is well,
What would happen if for one month we dropped the layers upon layers of the "shoulds" within our schedules and instead replaced them with "non-negotiables" for our minds, hearts, and bodies? A sort of "filtering down" to what really moves us closer to what we desire for ourselves and those close to us?
There is something intoxicating about the idea of simplifying. Magazines, books, online programs, and movements focus on the topic. I'm not sure about you, but the word "simplify" gets me inspired...It's actually my theme for 2017!
There is, however, that crucial point where we bump up against resistance. Simplifying can be hard! Why? Because it forces us to trim away what isn't working to make space for what does work...and giving something up regardless of the positive impact can be scary.
I'm reading a wonderful book at the moment, Present over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living.
The author asks the question, "if someone gave you a completely clear calendar and a bank account as full as you wanted, what would you do?"
Once you have your answer, ask yourself how can you start implementing that vision now. For example:
▪ If your answer was starting a non profit for rescue dogs, you could start volunteering at the local animal shelter.
▪ If it's a vacation around the world but your finances are tight, schedule in a "stay-cation" at home and read books and watch movies on the countries you'd like to visit.
▪ If you would redecorate your entire home, why not paint a bedroom?
The idea is to embody and get into the vibe of what it feels like to have it happening NOW in your life!
P.S. I'd love to hear your answer to the questions above!
P.S.S If you are in the Milwaukee area on February 25th I am hosting a workshop where we dive deeper into magic of "Simplicity!" Click here for details.
All is well,
Sometimes, it's difficult to let go of the need to be "right." Whether it be in our personal lives or career, it's tempting to get the last word in, show others how smart we are, or prove our points until we frankly are exhausted.
Where does this need come from? Is it rooted in the need for perfection or perhaps that familiar fear of failure?
Most of us know the frustration that comes from laying in bed at night staring at the ceiling while we ride what I call the "righteous rumination wheel"... going over and over how we are right and "they" are wrong.... and how we are going to make everyone agree with us!
Wouldn't it be great not to care?
If we were able to get to that place, how would life be different? How would our minds, bodies, and hearts feel? Try holding on to THAT way of being and watch your life experiences change.
Sometimes my "theme for the day" is "Just Let It Be." The next time you hop on that need to be "right," make a conscious decision to simply let go and let it be.
All is well,
Chatting with a client recently frustrated with a loved ones inability to take action, I thought of a friends catchy phrase, "watch my feet, not my mouth." In other words, "watch what I DO rather than what I SAY!"
It's easy to become exasperated and point the finger at a spouse, co worker, friend, or family member whose inaction is causing exasperation... but it's also a great exercise to look within, without judgement, on the ways our mouths are moving but we continue standing still. Let's face it...our feet are the only ones we have control over!
1. Describe The Glue. What is it exactly that is keeping our feet/lives stuck? Fear? If so, of what? Maybe fear of feeling vulnerable or fear of failing. It doesn't matter what it is but what does matter is identifying it. Once you become aware, then it become impossible to ignore it! Does this make sense? Think of the glue as a hidden commitment you've made to yourself that you aren't even aware of. Conscious goals might be to make more money, lose weight, or find love. Hidden commitments on the other hand, might be you crave security thus staying in a dead end job, using extra weight as a shield against people getting close, or subconsciously choosing partners you absolutely know are not right for you long term. This is the step where you dig deep and get honest.
2. Break It Up. Many times we remain stuck because the end goal is exciting but the road to it is overwhelming. We overestimate what we can get done in a short period of time, experience "failure," and thus we give up. Over the weekend I was listening to a Brendon Burchard podcast and I love his idea of 50 minute increments throughout the day assigned to different projects. Whatever your personal or professionals goals may be, lighten up a bit and steady goes it. Your mind can only handle so much "thinking" about your resume, de cluttering your home, or having a difficult conversation with a loved one. Time block throughout the day and once that "block" is over.... get out of your head!
3. Love It Up. This is the most important one of all. When we choose to nurture, support, and love ourselves first and foremost, we would't dream of sabotaging our own dreams. What do you desire for your children, your family, your friends? Now turn that love on yourself.
Accept yourself right now, exactly as you are, from the space you stand. Once you do, the feet magically begin to move.
All is well,
I recently had a conversation with a friend who asked me the question I often ask clients..."What Do You Want?" It's a question, when asked in relation to life as a whole, and can literally stop you in your tracks, cause anxiety or move you to tears. The question, as simple as it is, can be super overwhelming... especially if we tend to live our lives on auto pilot or at times spinning our wheels - both scenarios I have experience with in my own life.
It's a question that's tough to answer at times. It is, however, the starting point for creating the wealth of happiness, love and health as spiritual beings we so crave. Before we start creating vision boards and embodying what we think we desire for our lives, it's key to make sure it's what WE want for ourselves rather than what others or society might feel is best.
When you answer the question, "What do you want?" do you sense yourself filtering it a bit, downplaying it, or hiding behind what you feel you "should" wish for? If so, maybe now is the time to dig deep and peek behind the curtains of your ego and fears and find the answer.
If you are interested in hearing about what my answer was, shoot me an email with YOUR answer to the question!
All is well,
Rightfully so, the majority of each day is consumed with fulfilling basic needs for ourselves and those we love and are responsible for. Think about, for a minute, how different your experiences might be if you made certain that your soul was nurtured as well? What would your life look like and feel like if that inner most and sacred part of you, your "higher self," was happy, inspired and cared for?
How do we identify what feeds our soul? It's quite simple. Make a list of all the things you love to do ... then commit to one each day. If coming up with a list is difficult, think back to when you were 10 years old. What made you happy? Maybe it was painting, going on a bike ride, coloring, horseback rides, ice creams cones....and so on and so on. I bet any ten year old you ask could give you their list of 100 very quickly!
Shoot me an email with the number one thing that feeds YOUR soul and I'll send you the exercise I use with clients.
All is well.
Let’s face it. Drama doesn’t just happen. Somehow, some way, we allow it to slowly creep into our lives. Maybe we don’t hold the door wide open for it to walk in, but perhaps we allow it to overstay its welcome when it sneaks in through the window.
Are you tired of asking yourself, “why does this always happen to me?!” Is it time to step away from the chaos, anxiety and craziness? Give this process a try the next time drama comes a-knockin’:
Who knows you best? You do. Who has the power to create peace, joy and a life filled with ease? You do! All it takes is spending quality time with that special person.
Make it a great day!
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brene Brown
Have you had a goal in mind for what feels like eternity? Frustrated you haven’t brought it to fruition? Ready to give up?
Chances are you are dealing with things internally you have subconsciously run from. In order to flush out these internal “things,” you must explore the darkness.
Intuitively, we all know that one “hurdle” we are meant to overcome in this lifetime. It may be related to finances, personal relationships or health and wellness.
Ask yourself right now, “What is the one issue in my life, if dealt with, that would create a positive domino effect for me?”
Gathering up the courage to “go there” is tough. But the rewards are so much more.
As we enter 2017, it's a great time to create vision boards, think about our "theme" for the new year, declutter, organize, and get ready for a fresh start!
Can you imagine if we carried this energy into bite size pieces each day of the year? We would be unstoppable in reaching our goals and creating the life and career we desire!
My clients and friends know I am big into rituals and intentions for each day. As my gift to you, I am sharing the daily planner I use to create positive momentum towards my own goals. I simply print 5 out for the week and it's my "manifesto" for the day. I hope you enjoy it!
Simply go to my home page www.coachmegdaly.com and click on the blue box titled "Meg's Daily Planner."
Feel free to share the love and forward this on to friends, family and colleagues! Simple tools like this planner, when used consistently, can create powerful shifts!
Happy 2017! Here is to a wonderful year ahead!
All is good. All is well.
We all have our issues or our "stuff." It's what makes us human! If we had ourselves and everything in our lives perfected, I guess this show would be over, right?
In my workshops we talk a lot about habits or ways of living that block what we truly desire for our lives. People get super excited about moving away from these habits and more toward living in ways that support their minds, bodies and spirits... but what happens after the workshop?
Why is it so difficult to let these "hold-you-down habits" go? Why isn't it a cake walk to move more toward self-love, self-acceptance and self-nurturing?
I think one reason is we don't think we are enough. When we feel this way, we tend to "fill up" on other things that feed us. Maybe it's shopping, food, gossiping, etc. When we feel we aren't enough, it's tempting to reach outward to make us feel okay. The work comes, however, from reaching within to find ways to calm our minds and hearts down to the point where we know/feel/believe that who we are at the core is perfect.
I am big in to mantras. If you came to my home you might giggle a bit as my Mother does, when you see the "affirmation cards" posted around the house... mostly near light switch plates and on mirrors. One of my favorite is "I am enough." If you take anything away from today's gem, remember that you ARE enough. Write it down today... who cares if they laugh.
All is good. All is well.
Yesterday I was in two different conversations where this question was brought up:
"Why do people resist reaching out for support when it comes to personal development even when they really want to do it and know it would help?"
I took that as a sign to use it as the topic for today's gem!
It seems there are two possible reasons for the resistance. The first being we feel guilty or don't value the idea of investing in ourselves. The idea of spending time and resources on something that is 100% focused on ourselves feels a bit overindulgent.
The second reason is the one I feel is most pervasive.... it forces us to get uncomfortable.
Imagine your are at the center of a circle. Within this circle is your safe area, your comfort zone. Sometimes, when we have "a-ha" moments or get inspired to try something different, we begin to push closer to the edges of that circle and feel moments of courage to step outside that comfort zone... but that can be scary. You know that feeling when your mind is saying, "Just stay put in the job/relationship/habits/routine," but your gut is saying, "GO! Move forward!" It's as though your mind is justifying and ensuring the "stuck-ness," while your gut is begging you to expand and move forward.
When we gather up the courage to make small or big shifts in our lives, there IS that fire we must walk through. Once we move through it, however, the feeling on the other side is somewhat indescribable. Elation? Joy? Triumph?
What one thing have you been putting off that you know you MUST do. Maybe it involves beginning to speak up for yourself, tell your story, set your sights higher, or simply try something new. Whatever it is, lean into listening to your intuition. No coach, advisor or mentor can give you the answers that your own inner self has waiting for you right now.
All is good. All is well.
Does the title of today's gem sound familiar? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, your life and the people in it don't change?
In order to get different results, we must consider new behaviors and choices... for ourselves.
The end result? We grow, expand, evolve... in essence we experience more happiness, fulfillment and abundance in our lives.
The fun road to "self growth" is to get inspired. The not so fun route is to get uncomfortable.
Let's start with the fun one first. :)
Inspiration comes in many forms. Maybe its an "A-HA" moment in the car listening to an uplifting song/ audio book/podcast or coming across a quote on social media that hits home. Inspiration is high energy, uplifting and can change your vibe as quick as flipping on a light switch.
Getting uncomfortable, on the other hand, isn't quite as elevating...at first.
It's a bit scary, makes our stomachs turn and can be nerve-wracking. But deep down, it's also in those moments where we intuitively know what we must do, even if we don't want to admit it to ourselves.
When we gather up the courage to speak our truth, to say "I'm sorry," to practice extreme forgiveness, or choose to be vulnerable in any form, the weight that is lifted off our shoulders allows us to take off like a rocket.
The next time you are feeling frozen in a place that no longer works for you, choose to listen to those feelings in your gut... to that voice in your head... to your highest self residing in your heart. Chances are, they're nudging you towards inspiration as well as that unfamiliar and uncertain place. Go for it. You've got this. Your future self will thank you.
All is good. All is well!
Inevitably we all face dark chapters in our lives when challenges appear that seem to be just too much at the time.
On the flip side, we have moments of sheer joy where the universe seems to line up in perfect order.
As Frank Sinatra would say, "That's Life..."
The contrast or duality we experience in this sometimes crazy/sometimes wonderful world is what allows us to feel what living is ultimately about.
If there were no moments of pain, would you fully appreciate the moments of joy? If loneliness was never experienced, would that feeling of connection be as beautiful?
So the next time you begin to feel overwhelmed, ungrounded or out of alignment, remind yourself it's simply a moment in time preparing your heart for those sweet moments of peace.
All is good. All is well.
This time of year is filled with the energy of gratitude. A time of giving thanks for the many blessings, gifts, and abundance in our lives.
It is not always easy to be grateful. Sometimes, it's more "familiar" to focus on the lack within our lives, to slip into the comparison game, or to blame everything outside of ourselves for the reality we currently exist in.
When we are in that space of lack, comparison, or blame, one way of leaning out of it is to simply acknowledge the little things. "Thank you, bed, for a comfortable place to sleep." "Thank you, dog, for greeting me with a wagging tail each morning." "Thank you, car/bus/bike, for getting me to where I need to be today."
Dipping our toe into the pool of gratitude is kind of like magic. It opens up our hearts, lifts our energy and allows us to start seeing new paths, new choices and even more gratitude.
I have two notecards on my vanity table. Each morning, as I get ready for the day, I read both:
"I bless and prosper everyone in my world today."
"Everyone in my world blesses and prospers me."
Remember... we ALL are connected. When we choose to LOVE everyone and everything unconditionally (starting with ourselves!), we inevitably then receive more and more ...and more love.
Happy Holidays. I am grateful for you.
I recently was reminded by a friend of our tendency to exist in one of three mindsets:
Survive: "I will be happy once I am safe."
Strive: "I will be happy once I achieve XYZ goal or reach a certain level in life."
Thrive: "I choose to be happy now and live from the perspective of collaboration and possibilities."
So how do we get to this place called "thriving?" Recently, I listened to a podcast by the late Wayne Dyer. In it, he was describing Maslow's three qualities of a "self-actualized" person (a.k.a. someone who is probably thriving!)
Their qualities include:
1. Not being concerned with the good opinion of others (a.k.a. confident with who they are).
2. Not feeling attached to the outcome (a.k.a. no ulterior motives or manipulation within the personal or professional lives).
3. Lack of a desire to control or have power over someone or something.
I don't know about you, but I would love to check off all three.... but life is a work in progress - that is for sure! For me, thriving is simply being aware and consciously making choices that support my own definition of what is right for me.
What can you do today to start moving towards a "thrive" mindset?
“Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet and everyone you meet will be genuinely interested in you” ~ Rasheed Ogunlaru
You're at a party. The person you are speaking with isn’t making eye contact, is looking over your shoulder scanning the room for someone “more important,” and clearly not listening to what you have to say. How does that make you feel?
Now imagine you are at the same party with a different person. They are engaged in your conversation, leaning in, looking you in the eye, nodding, asking questions which show they are listening, not interrupting. Now how do you feel?
Each and every interaction we partake in throughout the day has the ability to impact someone in a powerful way when we give one another our full attention, in the moment, with our heart and soul. What a super amazing gift that is!
I love synchronicity.
Recently, I was the opening speaker for an extraordinary company's annual meeting. Before heading onstage, I was asked, "So what song would you like to play?" My first reaction was, "What?! I didn't think about that part!" Three days later, one of my clients was on a high from a conference she attended. One of her favorite presentations of the day was centered around the topic of "What's Your Walk Up Song?" How perfect!
When you think about it, we all march out the door every morning to a certain beat - exuding either high or low energy. As a result, we tend to create really great experiences or not so great ones.
Ask yourself right now, "What's my walk up song today?" Maybe if you're navigating rough waters it might be "Titanium," or if you're feeling on top of the world it'd be "Girl On Fire!"
Remember, we all have a choice to choose our song, our values, our best self.
Rock on :)
In my workshops people always have fun with an exercise that starts off with the question:
"If colleagues/clients/loved ones were to open the dictionary and see a picture of you next to 2-3 words, which words would those be?"
It's a simple exercise to peek into how we show up to the world, how others see us, or who we are.
Have you thought about your words yet? If you are struggling a bit, take it a step further and actually reach out to clients/colleagues/loved ones and ask them! (Or better yet, email me and I'll send you an exercise you can use.)
Once you have your "words," think about how "being" these words help you. How they help you create amazing experiences for yourself and others... or how they help you get through challenging times.
On the flip side, think about how, when taken to the extreme, they have the potential to hold you back.
For example, let's say your words are "warm and genuine." That's great, right? It is as long as you don't become a doormat to others who might take advantage of those qualities.
The point is, it's fun to embrace our "personal brand"... while making sure to channel it in ways that create positive experiences all around!
Joy & Abundance,
Recently, I was listening to Robert Holden discuss one of the biggest instigators of causing us to feel stuck.... and it's "fear."
He goes on to explain that fear is simply the alarm for us to wake up to our own wisdom. In essence, that our "knowing" of who we are and what we want is the solution to move through and beyond the fear.
What is lurking within your life right now and holding you back?
Fear of being known? Alone? A failure? A success?
When you begin to feel that all too familiar sense of fear creeping into your thoughts, words or actions, try this:
1. Meet & Greet: Actually say "hello" to the fear and find out it's name. Maybe it's impatience, jealousy or illogical worry. Being able to name something brings it from this "out there" pervasive "worry cloud" to something tangible that can be negotiated.
2. Dig Deeper: What is this fear trying to teach you? How would your highest self respond to this fear? What if your loved one had this fear... what would YOU tell them? Truly knowing the makeup of our fears diminishes its power over us.
3. Use a tool: I like affirmations and one of my favorites seems to do the trick... "All is good. All is well. You are safe.
You are loved." Yes, a bit Stuart Smalley from SNL... but gosh darnit, it works!
Joy & Abundance,
You know what it feels like to lose your “mojo.” Physically you might feel lethargic and lacking energy. Maybe your mind is flooded with thoughts of fear, doubt and self-criticism. Perhaps it could be your heart is just not in it anymore and emotionally you feel stuck.
When I become immobilized in my heart, head or body I’ve learned that consciously shifting my choices is the path to realignment. When we choose to look within and adjust our own behavior to see the results we desire, we step away from trying to control the situation or other people and essentially come home to ourselves.
Try these three tips the next time you feel your mojo drifting away:
1. Remember Who You Are: How many of us truly know ourselves? At our core we have that knowing, but along the way in life it’s easy to forget who we are and what we want. Take some time each morning to ask yourself, “What do I desire? What would be a game changer in my life right now?” Then, train yourself by starting with the smaller choices throughout the day and asking “what do I really want?” (what to eat, what leisure activities to participate in, who to socialize with, etc.)
2. Fall In Love With You: This is a biggie. Think about how you speak to, take care of, and nurture those you love. Your family, your spouse, your pets, your friends. Do you treat yourself with the same TLC you bestow upon them? If not, start practicing “extreme self-care” in how you treat your body, your mind and your heart. Be kind to YOU.
3. Take Action: Begin the rituals in the morning. Make space by removing the physical and emotional “clutter.” Choose to look within at what you love AND don’t love about yourself… and accept them. Accept all of you...entirely.
p.s. I have live events that go deep into getting unstuck. Check them out at www.coachmegdaly.com.
Joy & Abundance,
“Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remembering what one receives.” – Alexander Dumas
There’s only so much time in one day, and unfortunately friendships tend to take the back seat to family and career responsibilities.
If you’re ready to create balance with this topic, put in place these tips!
BGT- Ban Guilt Trips!
Nothing good ever comes of laying guilt trips on others or putting them on yourself…so get off that train! Accept others for what time they have to give and cut yourself a break when you can’t do it all. Set up an agreement with your inner circle to give everyone the benefit of the doubt that everyone is doing the best they can. Some of my closest friends and I may go for weeks or months without talking or seeing each other… but when things line up and we connect, it’s like no time has passed.
DIFG- Do I Feel Good?
This is a biggie. Take note of HOW you feel when with your group. Do you feel supported, empowered and overall just really good during your time together? Great! Focus on those people! Do you walk away feeling negative, frustrated and not heard? Maybe it’s time to rethink the time you are putting into those relationships.
CTFT- Commit To Friend Time!
Once you have a clear picture of whom you want to spend time with…commit to it! Do whatever it takes not to flake out. Remind yourself of the value you receive. Good friends and good times nourish our souls so make it a priority.
SCE- Set Communication Expectations
You are busy. Everyone is busy. For that reason, have some understood expectations. If you aren’t a texter, tell them. If you don’t want to be messaged or tagged on Facebook, communicate that.
This one works great…if you are just calling to chat, express that in your voice mail so your friend isn’t rushing to call you back when she’s overwhelmed at work. On the flip side, if you really need to bend their ear about something, communicate that as well. Chances are when you really need them, their response time will be quick!
Friendships, just like any relationship, are much smoother when both parties are receiving what they need.
I hope these tips help you in establishing quality friend time and peace!
Wishes to you for a happy day,
I had one of my favorite house guests visit last weekend..my little 8 year old cousin, Katie. Besides teaching me many things over a few days such as how to use my Apple devices more effectively, the ease of buying Red Box movies, and “what’s the harm in just a few Laffy Taffys?," she reminded me of the power of kindness. Her words and actions revolved around this core value. Our theme for the weekend became “kind and courageous” (thanks to the new Cinderella movie for that inspiration!).
What are YOUR personal values? Authenticity…Integrity….Prosperity…. Creativity? What one word drives you? Must be present in your life and in your interactions with others in order for you to thrive?
When we know who we are, we are able to consciously create a life which inspires and moves us forward.
If you are curious about developing your own “life theme,” reach out to me today for a wonderful new assessment and program I am beginning to work through with my clients. It’s a game changer!
Joy & Abundance,
Why do we become overwhelmed? Stuck? Paralyzed in planning?
Most likely because we tell ourselves the story that what we most deeply desire is a mountain to climb. That it will take A LOT of effort. In fact, it might even take a really, really, really long time.
Think about that mindset. It’s kind of exhausting just reading it!
Now think about something you brought into your life with ease. What was different in the way you approached that goal or dream or wish? Most likely, it was simply good old fashioned “slow but steady” progress. The fun thing about this kind of approach is it’s not exhausting. In fact, with little shifts, or as I like to refer to them as “little life pivots,” our lives quickly begin to look different, feel different... and as a result we experience things in different ways.
If you have tried to achieve the same goal over and over... make the decision today to simply stop and reassess. What is one, just one, action step you can take each day for the next week? Added bonus of little life pivots…they create momentum. The sweet feelings of accomplishment build and before you know it, you have reached the top of the mountain.
Have a great weekend!
“Slow down and enjoy life. It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast - you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” ~Eddie Cantor
How fast are you moving? Is it time to slow down mentally, physically or both?
Sometimes we are forced to make a change in our pace based on things beyond our control. Rather than wait for this to happen, why not make a conscious effort today to slow your gait? Here are a few tips:
1. Move from auto-pilot to awareness:
Reflect on the “mundane” things you do each day such as laundry, brushing your teeth or driving to work. Do you remember these minutes or hours? Are they lost due to our minds in high gear thinking ahead, worrying over things beyond our control, ruminating over the past? Try viewing these routines as ways to simply be in the moment and experience it through all our senses. The goal isn’t for perfection, but instead starting with small moments of mindfulness, which will build over time.
2. Gratitude for your own backyard:
Do you find yourself peeking over the fence into other people’s lives and playing the comparison game? Allowing the accomplishments of others to become barometers of our own sense of worth is a dangerous path to go down. When you start feeling tinges of envy, ask yourself what’s behind the sensation, acknowledge it, then list off five things you are grateful for in your life.
3. Let it go:
Release thought patterns, activities, people and habits that no longer serve you. What you might discover is a huge amount of new space in your life for things that allow you to slow down and enjoy life.
Is technology running your life? Try setting aside time each day for emails, the phone and television. When we disconnect technology and tune into the people and moments around us, it’s easier to slow down.
Wishes to you for a happy day!
Think of a troubling situation from the past or one you are currently dealing. Maybe it’s your boss who chose someone else for a coveted role or project. Perhaps it’s a comment made by a friend or partner. It could even be something you were left out of.
Observe the thoughts running through your head. Are they based on factual information based on direct communication from the other person? Or instead are these assumptions swirling through your head? Assumptions have the ability to take on a life of their own, making the story bigger and bigger until we’ve created a screen play out of a simple gesture, comment or action.
We so often hold others accountable for what they say or do yet rarely ask for clarification. Miscommunication is the root of most conflict and yet so easy to resolve!
Today, gather up the courage to ask the questions and also be ready for the answer. To live confidently in knowing that our only job is to manage ourselves.
“We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions.” ~ Stephen Covey
Think of an individual in your world who you perceive as a source of frustration, stress or even, at times, anger. Perhaps this person is a co-worker, family member or neighbor. The two of you seem worlds apart from where you stand in terms of choices, values, ambitions or your overall outlook on life. How do your interactions play out with this person? What physical and emotional reactions do you experience when in their presence and how do these reactions affect you?
Is this in line with how you want to live your life? If not, take a second, dig deep and try to uncover at least one thing you have in common...really! It's a stretch and your initial reaction may be "absolutely nothing!" Challenge yourself. Chances are you are able to find something within yourself that mirrors them. Once we are able to recognize common ground with others, it softens the edges, a level of compassion grows and life becomes that much easier. We are all connected.
A client recently shared with me her desire to be “Conscious” and “Consistent” with her “Choices” in life. Imagine the joy and prosperity we could awaken in our lives and careers if we brought it “back to basics” with this concept?
What does it mean to be conscious and consistent to you? In today’s world we are inundated with temptations that lead us into the “shiny object syndrome.” What do I mean by this?
“I want to get in shape so I will join the gym. No wait! There’s this really cool yoga studio down the road… hold on… there’s this new workout studio where it’s like personal training but in a group.”
“I’m not happy in my job… I should talk with my boss about switching roles… but this recruiter called me so maybe I’ll work on my resume this afternoon… oh wait! My best friend wants to partner with me on a new business!”
What happens? Many times we become overwhelmed with the choices in front of us that we wear ourselves out and become… you guessed it… stuck.
Nothing is wrong with weighing our alternatives as long as we don’t backslide into “stuckness” and instead set a start date for action. This starts with becoming aware of what we want, making a conscious choice, and (most important!) consistently taking action each day!
A few questions to ask yourself…
You are in a crisis. Things aren’t going right at work, in a relationship or with your health. Who do you call for wisdom? Where do you go for support? Which people bring you comfort? These are the people who lift you up and help carry you through the fire when going it alone is simply too tough. This is your “divine team.”
The same holds true for our thrilling desires and goals. Whether we call upon our trusted friends and advisors or reach out spiritually through our faith and wisdom from those who have passed, we are consulting with our “divine team.”
It’s important to be hyper vigilant that those we choose to share these parts of ourselves with are truly investors in our lives. That is, individuals who want the best for us, who do not project their own shadow parts or negative experiences on to us and our situations.
Whether it is draining drama or exciting developments in your life, it’s important to choose wisely where you spread the energy and to whom.
Homework for today: Make a list of who you LOVE being around. These are the people who support you, challenge you and make you aware of the beauty of life! You in turn, are able to give to them as well.
The next time you have something fun to share or maybe you’re going through a tough time, these are the people you must turn to! Turn away from old, familiar patterns or seeking support from individuals who tend to add to the pain or take away from the joy.
(Keep in mind, it’s OKAY if you only have one person on your list. One member of your Divine Team is 100x more effective than 20 energy suckers!)
“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being.” ― Albert Schweitzer
Does this sound familiar?
“When I reach a specific point in my career, then I will start having more fun.”
“Once I lose these last ten pounds, then I will buy that great dress.”
“I’ll start traveling once I retire.”
“Nurturing myself will start happening once I raise my kids.”
“I’ll be happy once I ___________”
How often do we push away happiness in the present moment because we must first “get to the end of the story” in different areas of our lives?
Let’s face it. Once we run through that finish line with one goal, another race begins. There will always be new “to-do lists,” new responsibilities, and new desires.
What would happen if we put these “life restrictions” aside for a moment? Imagine simply making the choice to be happy NOW, to begin following your passions NOW, to begin living… in the “NOW.”
“Always say 'yes' to the present moment... Surrender to what is. Say 'yes' to life - and see how life starts suddenly to start working for you rather than against you.” ~ Eckhart Tolle